The practice of Universal Loving Kindness was enjoyable. I love the way I was able to be at peace within myself and feel the tranquility I seek on a daily basis. It keeps a smile on my face and keeps my mind thinking of all that has happened in my life through the years and how much I have progressed but as long as I am having happy thoughts I am fine as soon as I think about an event that was distasteful in my life my mind totally shuts down. The exercise and assessment process provides many scenarios which presents itself in everyday life from being sick, to anger, to disgust to happiness, and sadness to name a few. I have discovered that I need to try to progress more in the acceptance of loving people that have not been nice to me. I feel I have not totally gotten over that hurdle yet. Trying to resolve those feeling is going to take time and to me the only way this will work is asking God to help me forgive, I have struggle with this for a few years now and as hard as I try to forgive, I have not achieved it yet. I long in the near future to prevail and go on living a much more productive life without having this type of issue hold me back. Other than prayer, I do not know how else to come to terms with my hurt; even though thinking back I always thought if the person or persons would die, that would make things better for me, but I know that that would make other people hurt…… Maybe I am starting to heal slowly but surely, if I am thinking of those peoples loved ones.
JaeC “PENSIVE”
Hey JaeC I know what you mean. Forgiveness can be so emotional depending on who we are trying to forgive. I have only one person that I have been trying to forgive and numb my feeling for, but I'm having a horrible time, I liked reading about forgiveness does not mean you are saying...what they did was no big deal or that you have to act like nothing ever happened or you have to be nice to them....even knowing this, I'm still having a hard time clearing my hurt heart for this person. Just when I think I do, my husband will mention his daughters name and wham my heart begins a stinging hurt and then I'm back to talking to myself about forgiveness again. I'm missing something I guess. I am loving the meditation exercises and the calmness that comes with them. I say we keep at it and we stay focused, and one day out of the blue we will realize the negative pull is no longer owning us and that we have truly forgiven the person in our hearts, even though they are still who they are. Stay strong.
ReplyDeleteHello JaeC, I think you are on the right track. You have realized that you have to learn how to forgive. One way is by practicing changing your thoughts to positive ones. Sometimes simply restructuring our negative thoughts in sentences said out loud or written down helps reinforce the positive and will soon outweigh the negative. You have mastered one giant hurdle though, you now know what you have to accomplish to lead yourself to a path of integral health...good luck!
ReplyDeleteI really enjoyed your blog this week and the comments so I wanted to share my experience this week on forgiveness. I don't want to share too much with you all, but sometimes we are vague and I feel we can learn from each other more if we have a greater understanding of what we are all speaking of. My brother is a voyeur and he has gone through problems with sexual addiction. His wife stayed with him when this first occurred after a lot of counseling. Four months ago he was caught doing it again to my best friend. The struggle has been to try to stay together as women with my sister-in-law, best friend and my sisters. We have all known each other since small children and we are trying to continue our relationships. I have been dealing with my anger and hurt and been using the loving kindness practice to work on all aspects of this situation. I do not care to mend my relationship with my brother as I don't trust him. I am trying to forgive him, but now my sisters have gone to visit him. I guess I'm just not sure how to deal with it all. I am attempting to see the bigger picture of all of this. The meditations are making me feel more at ease, but I have a long way to go.
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ReplyDeleteYour blog was excellent this week. It seems you are most definitely fulling your journey in being at a more peaceful state. As you are healing, you will have some positives as well as negatives such as struggles, unresolved issues, etc., but the key is to keep focused and keep striving for that ultimate inner peace and calmness. With more practice and concentration you will ultimately succeed in your goal of being at peace.
Namaste.
Hola JaeC.
ReplyDeleteVery nice blog JaeC! I enjoyed reading about your experience with the practice of Universal Loving Kindness. All of this is very new to be, but I am finding the inner peace that I did not know I had or could actually feel. We both love the way we able to be at peace from within and also feel the tranquility we seek. I can tell that you are a positive person and these exercises help keep you on a positive note on a daily basis. I am person who loves to smile and be at peace.
As you have mentioned this week that you need to try to progress more in the acceptance of loving people that have not been nice to you. I also need help in that area of my life. Sometime forgiving someone who has hurt you deeply can be a very hard thing to do. I have notice a change in myself or actually wanting to forgive those who have hurt me and I owe this to the practice of Universal Loving Kindness. I have a very good feeling that that you will overcome your struggle and learn to forgive and be happy when you have done so. I strongly suggest to keep praying because that is your answer. I'll keep you in my prayers. Again, very nice blog this week. Keep up the great work JaeC!
Anthony
I'm sorry that you have trouble getting over your hurt. I can relate to it because I had something hurt me in my life that I thought I could never get over. I had to just let it go and let time heal the hurt. Instead of focusing on the pain, I started focusing on what I could possibly learn from the hurt. It turned out to be a good lesson in growing up and understanding that everyone doesn't view things the way that I do. You can only change yourself and not anyone else. If you look closely to what hurt you, I'm sure there is something in it that you can learn and grow from.
ReplyDeleteI truly appreciate the honesty you brought to your post this week.I can see that this class has helped you to be considerate to your emotions and maybe see yourself in a different light.Forgiveness is a big step and as I learned this week it does not mean that you are condoning the actions that hurt you, you are just letting them go.
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